Sit in front of each other either on the floor or on the chair. Take a moment to set the intention of this exercise within yourself silently to remove all the barrier between you and your partner..

FIRST STEP – 3 Minutes

One of you can choose to be the active partner and another one is receptive. The receptive partner can visualise that their whole body has become one big ear and now you are listening from the whole body.

Active partner can start speaking about the topic that is bothering them and start expressing using words and body language. Receptive partner is listening not only to the words but also the feeling and energy that is transmitted by the active partner.

SECOND STEP – 2 Minutes

Now active partner finishes and receptive partner start reflecting what they have heard in these 3 minutes by saying “I have heard you saying …this …this …this”. You dont have to repeat exact same words and sentences but the essence of what the speaking partner was expressing.

After reflecting completely receptive partner ask the active partner “Did I hear you fully or I have missed something?” Now active partner has the opportunity to either say “Yes I feel heard” or saying “Yes I feel heard but you missed out this part or that part” and say that missed part. Receptive partner listens to anything that active partner is adding and once they finish, repeat what they have said.

SWITCH

Now active partner becomes receptive and receptive becomes active and repeat the above process (3 minutes active partner expressing and then other partner reflecting).

This one round will take 10 minute and you can have 2 rounds of it. It may or may not solve the real issue but it will surely melt the ice between you.

Now watch the practice, then prepare a clean calm space, make sure you will not be disturbed and begin.